Warning: this post was born with tears. I can’t guarantee that you’ll leave from here without mascara streaked cheeks. Consider this your friendly warning.
I’ve come to realise that I’m a Do as I do kinda girl, as opposed to Do as I say. I think that’s why I’ve gravitated towards coaching and self-empowerment, because I believe I’ve got value to give and share, and often whatever information I turn over to my peers, family and clients is what I need to listen to most. In fact, often I’ll come away from a conversation thinking It’s probably time that you did that too, Ta’s. I’m paraphrasing here, but recently Mastin Kipp said something along the lines of ‘that’s why coaches and mentors are so screwed up- because the person they need to teach the most, is themselves‘.
I, Tara Bliss, am one screwed up, inside out, pretzeled-up chick. This post was written to prove that behind the advice and the how to’s and the lessons, there’s a real life, human girl, who often comes face to face with her own fears and insecurities. What perhaps sets me apart from the majority, is that in even in those moments- I’m hastily scrambling for the advice and the how-to’s and the lessons.
What are you afraid of? I believe we’ve evolved to live in a constant state a fear (albeit it’s an evolution that can be completely reversed with a fraction of intention). I also believe that while living in this state of fear and doubt, we rarely identify and confront ourselves with what our specific fears are! Let’s change this. Let’s purge. This idea is simple, yet profound. Just as I’m an advocate of declaring your dreams, so to am I of identifying the thickness and heaviness in your life.
Lovely, what is it that you’re afraid of?
I’ll go first.
1. I worry that I won’t be taken seriously because I’m only 25.
2. That the money won’t arrive for me on time. That I’ll feel suffocated by debt.
3. That my radical new path of living in-spirit isn’t perfectly aligned with my husband’s path.
4. That people will mistake my enthusiasm for cockiness.
5. That people I love will mistreat me and take me for granted.
6. That people will resist paying for my time, energy and services.
7. Sometimes I have impostor complex- like I should be accredited or have some type of qualification to be in business.
8. I worry that my family thinks I’ve totally lost the plot.
9. In private, uncomfortable moments, I still often turn to food for support.
10. I’m afraid for the people I love- for their health and their spirit. I worry about their addictions, the way they abuse themselves and their general attitude towards life.
11. I’m afraid to gain wait.
12. I have nightmares about cigarettes prematurely ripping Glen from my clutches.
13. I regularly don’t show my dreams the respect they deserve, often referring to myself as reckless and foolish.
14. I ponder whether growing up this fast has left me without a sense of humour.
15. I’m kinda socially retarded.
Okay, now that wasn’t easy. But when we declare our fears, we have an opportunity to overcome them. We’ve strategically discovered what causes our spirits to contract in difficult moments.
The bittersweet between my teeth. Trying to find the in between. Fall back in love eventually.
Feel that grit, that clenched jaw. Taste the salt in your tears. Find the in between. Look for the lesson. Look AT the lesson. And then, come back to love. Fall back into it.
But whatever you do. Gently nurture yourself back to love.
I can’t wait to hear your beautiful truth in the comments below, beautiful. Go for it. And please, share this post with your girlfriends.
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