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A Nod of Recognition to Those Who ‘Wing It’

My ‘Ready Fire Aim’ technique – that I’ve used throughout my life, and more recently, in business – is starting to feel a little rusty.

Here’s why.

There’s a certain level of patience, attention to detail and fine-tooth-combing required in Turning Pro. And let’s face it; we all want a generous piece of the PRO pie. We want to expand our consciousness, play bigger in the world, write better stuff, help people on a larger scale, make enough money so we can hire a team, eat organic and be philanthropic.

It’s your birthright to feel that way.

I just want to do things… better.”

In case you didn’t already know, here are my two most favouritest-in-the-world quotes that light my business path.

“Start before you’re ready” – Marie Forleo


“Being qualified is overrated” – Danielle LaPorte

Both have nursed me through the most tumultuous, joyous and deeply fulfilling nine months of my life. Be bold. Be a pioneer. Screw the man! Do it your way. Take a deep breath, and GO!

I’ll never take those 8 potent words down from my Vision Wall. Ever. But admittedly, it’s time to add just a fraction more thought to the process.

This post is for you if, like me, you’re ready to inject some good old fashioned impeccable thoughtfulness into your days; be it into your business, health, relationships, or your blog.


Notice what lights you up. What is it about someone else’s structure that makes you think: Damn. That’s good. Discover what it is and then set about implementing something similar, with an undeniable ‘you’ spin on it. This isn’t about cheap-skatin’ and copy-cattin’, we’re talking about making small, inspired changes that’ll revolutionise your life.

Here are some examples:

A) Pristine health longs for YOU to connect with it. You’re a person who ‘wings it’ throughout the day. Preparation isn’t prioritised; you might grab a sandwich at lunch and have a salad for dinner. And all of those green juices on instagram are driving you insane. Where the hell do people find the time for all that!?!

So, you make yourself a deal. You’ll juice your little heart out in the morning, and head to work with 3 or 4 mason jars of nutrient dense elixir. Sure, maybe you’ll still grab a takeaway sandwich at lunch, but those ten minutes you spend getting friendly with your juicer in the morning is going to pay off, big time.

** I’ve started doing this – and it rocks. I’ve started making 3 juices and 2 smoothies in the morning for my day ahead. That way, when I head to the beach to write, not only am I nurturing my health in one of the best ways possible, but I’m drinking some serious brain fuel.

B) You notice that those around you seem to just have everything so figured out. So calculated- but not in a soul-confining, restricting, predictable and non-mysterious way. Rather, it’s somehow in an expansive, laden-with-possibility, divinely creative way.

And it leaves you feeling, well, kind of lazy.

Shit woman, do I hear you or what!?

The good news is – this stuff is all learnable. Start with one sweet little thing at a time.

Here is your juicy as hell little list of signposts. Choose one today that you feel will point you in the right direction. Play with that one for a week, and then return here, and add another to your arsenal.

Set an intention for your day. Choose a single word, or a sentence, or a feeling.

Meditate. You know it’s time! 5 minutes in the morning. 5 minutes at night.

List 5 (very specific) things you’re grateful for at this moment. Follow this with 5 (very specific) things you’re ready and willing to change/ let go of/ create.

I love this technique from the beautiful Rach. When she’s in re-callibration mode, she writes this list. Saying yes to ___________ , means I have to say no to ____________. It’s reverse psychology at it’s finest. What are you saying yes to, too often?

Create a vision board. Or a vision wall.

Set aside time to visualise. This is very, very different to meditation. Visualisation is self-indulgent, in the holiest of ways. It’s a fantasy that you have every intention of living out. It’s creation in motion. Leave no holes barred. Close your eyes, and imagine the sights, smells and textures of your dream life, daily.

Start a prayer practice. This is life-changing. My favourite prayer is ‘Thank you’.

Pull an Oracle Card every day.

Handwrite in nature. Get out of the damn house / office.


That’s cool. But what about the business stuff?

I’ve asked myself this time and time again, and I still often hear crickets.

Some people nail online marketing.

Some people smash time management out the park.

Others have a great knack for stylish design and flair.

I for one, feel as though I have rebellious personal development and curious self-love down to an (almost) fine art.

I don’t particularly enjoy reading business books. I prefer marinating in pages filled with chakras and eccentric people who can channel wisdom from the heavens. I’m a weirdo like that.

I love it when ideas traipse around my head.

I’m a short term thinker (who, yes, has a Vision Wall).

I regularly surrender my future and instead, narrow my focus on what is it I can do today to feel phenomenal and make an impact in your life (a la The Desire Map).

When I’m working with my clients, yes, we’re working toward something, but that something is only ever going to be a manifested projection of what’s happening right now. So babes, what do we have to do to get you humming along happily ASAP?

But planning out my ideal business vision, and forecasting a website re-design (which I’m aching for badly), and summing up my role in this world in a single paragraph?

I find this really, really difficult. Because, as I mentioned before, I want to feel good now.

Can you relate? Do you ever feel as though you’re ten minutes, or two weeks, or six months behind the eight ball?

If you answered yes, then this nod of recognition is for you. Brave you, who often takes big risks, without too much contemplation and preparation. Your ‘winging it’ skills have served you well so far, but if you’re anything like me, something’s gotta give. We’ve got to beef up our risks with a little more patience. This is what attention to detail is all about.

And here’s the thing about patience. As much as if often feels counterintuitive to your quick-draw reflexes, it’s often a blessing. Hang back a little, you fire cracker, you, because something’s cooking. Can you feel it?

When you notice the wonderful work that those around you are putting out into the world, recognise that most of the time, there’s been many hours of blood, sweat and tears poured into the creation process.

Let’s draw in on some of that ‘strategy’. We can still utilise our winging it superpowers in other ways, like on stage, in an interview, in free-flowing conversation. We can confirm heaven-sent ideas rapidly, and with full-blown enthusiasm, but let’s nurture those very ideas a little better – with patience and attention.

And, a little complimentary piece of advice, whether you’re in business, or have a blog-baby that keeps you super busy. Hire an assistant. Not only can they systemise everything for you, which subsequently makes YOU feel much more professional, prepared, and (the big one) organised, but your assistant can double as a sounding board, and a hero of beautiful ideas. Match made in heaven.


So firstly, if I was speaking to YOU in this blog post, say hi in the comments. Gosh it would be oh-so-nice to know that I didn’t write this entirely for myself.

And secondly; two things. How have your READY FIRE AIM superpowers best served you? And how have they sabotaged you? Dying to hear what you’ve got to say.

Love you! x

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20 Responses to A Nod of Recognition to Those Who ‘Wing It’

  1. Ruby Toad April 5, 2013 at 7:46 am #

    Oh Tara…you really hit the nail on the head for me today. Feeling so in between two worlds! And patience…I hear you: )

  2. Amy ~ True Shining Self April 5, 2013 at 8:54 am #

    What a beautiful post Tara, full to the brim with advice, all relevant to where I’m at – especially the patience! I’m so eager to jump ahead I’m not appreciating all the hard work I’ve put into being where I am ‘right now’. Thank you for your wonderful words of wisdom xxx

  3. Alana April 5, 2013 at 9:47 am #

    I love this post Tara – and I agree with Amy, you are so amazingly patient. A skill I need to learn!

    A little structure does go a long way.. xx

  4. Ainslie April 5, 2013 at 10:07 am #

    This! Stumbling trying to find words to say how much it touched me (reduced me to tears) because you totally just gave me permission to know my life is ok for now as it is (which is not so good, but good if that makes sense).

    Thankyou. Really.

  5. Chloe April 5, 2013 at 10:18 am #

    I love this Tara. I have a tendency to ‘ready, fire aim’ with too many projects at once and then struggle with keeping them all in the air. Too much enthusiasm and not enough time in the day. I relate to this totally and will come back to it again for a reminder when I need to slow the pace a little.

    But I do cherish my ability to wing it, and here’s to the fellow wingers out there!

  6. Lori April 5, 2013 at 11:16 am #

    Love it. xo.

  7. Erin April 5, 2013 at 4:02 pm #

    Loved this Tara. Although I probably still lean more towards the over thinking/planning side, this was still so useful.
    Particularly resonating with ‘You notice that those around you seem to just have everything so figured out.’ Always! Thanks for the tips xx

  8. Ruchika April 5, 2013 at 6:10 pm #

    Hey Tara, you spoke to me 🙂 it was a wonderful and beautiful post. I so need to slow down, be patient and just go easy! x

  9. Dani April 5, 2013 at 6:30 pm #

    I hear you sister! I am so a risk taker, I jump in head first with not so much as a second thought. I feel that this momentum gets me only so far and then I get stuck, I loose motivation, inspiration and clarity. I too am learning to slow down, plan and work hard before lunging. Beautiful post honey xxx

  10. Claire // This is Lifeblood April 5, 2013 at 8:57 pm #

    Yeah yeah! This is right on the money babe.

    I’ve ALWAYS been a Ready Fire Aim girl, and it’s a great way to ‘jump and then find your wings’, surprise yourself and experiment.

    But I’m feeling you on the biz side of things – this takes time. Looking at the structure of my own blog and as plan to take it to the next level, I know it’s important to slow down, be patient, observant and strategic. Love this x.

  11. Laura April 5, 2013 at 10:49 pm #

    Hi ta’s 🙂 So thoughtful and clearly written. Totally relate to part B) I feel this every damn day lately. I’ll be home in a few weeks and this time Im thinking about what I want to do long term to feel good, and how it is I’m going to get there, instead of just diving into the next best available thing that comes along! xx

  12. Amy Taylor-Kabbaz April 6, 2013 at 3:42 pm #

    This SO spoke to me. It’s like you’d read my head. I have so many project ideas, and a website design that is constantly and consistently on my mind, that in the end it’s almost holding me back. Preventing me really putting it out there because I don’t think it’s ‘perfect’, especially when I start comparing it to other sites.
    But those two quotes from Danielle and Marie will now be plastered on my wall too.
    As well as your amazing words.
    Thank you! X

  13. Emily April 7, 2013 at 9:34 am #

    Great post! I find that I leap in head first and come to instant decisions about the big life changing things but freeze when it comes to the smaller choices. Maybe if I had a bigger plan the smaller choices would fall into place more easily.


  14. Naomi April 7, 2013 at 1:49 pm #

    I SO needed to read this today! Thank God I clicked on over. I think I’m the opposite of ‘ready, aim, fire’, more like ‘think, consider, think some more’ before taking a small step forward. I gotta get me some more ‘ready, aim, fire’! Thanks for the wise words Tara!

  15. Katie - Conquering Fear Spiritually April 7, 2013 at 4:29 pm #

    Ooooh, ooh! Major goosebumps and tingles reading this. You are such a trailblazer my darling- love this! xx

  16. Sarah April 7, 2013 at 5:38 pm #

    Oh YES! I loved it! “…surrender my future and instead, narrow my focus on what is it I can do today” – will take this with me into the week. Thanks babe x

  17. Amelia April 8, 2013 at 12:58 pm #

    Pretty much nodded my head the entire way through that post.

    I’m the classic bull at a gate. So many ideas and things that I want to do, but I want them all now (or yesterday). And then the drawback is that I never feel like I’ve achieved anything. So now it’s time to step back, reevaluate and focus on a few things at at time… Slow and steady. 🙂 xx

  18. Jessica Nazarali - Health Coach April 8, 2013 at 5:22 pm #

    This is SO me! My husband is the exact opposite, attention to deal everything has to be perfect. I think there is a time and a place for both. I’m trying to be more of a perfectionist and I’m pleased to say it is paying off 🙂

  19. Tegan Ballinger April 23, 2013 at 9:43 pm #

    Hey Tara, fantastic post! Talk about feeling like I am behind – I am only just getting around to reading this now, and there’s another 60+ emails still waiting in my inbox. eeek! I’ve always had very little patience and so when an idea popped into my head, I would have to do it straight away with no planning. For some things this is good, but usually I would just end up disappointed with the result and then left feeling empty until the next goal came along. And no wonder, I had put so little energy into my goals! Now I am consciously practising patience, planning more and tying that in with imagination to create beautiful work. So much more fulfilling!

  20. Kate August 19, 2013 at 3:22 pm #

    Definitely feeling a little overwhelmed at the moment, trying to prioritise and work out why the hell did I start my blog in the first place!! So many ideas spinning around in my head but nothing actually happening…. very frustrating! I have started to practice the saying no thing over the last week to better set myself up for the day or week and I must say it has been VERY liberating!! Small steps.
    Thanks Tara!!! Always so inspiring reading your honest words 🙂

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